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aliljaded 53F
23944 posts
1/21/2019 5:57 am
What Counts as a Spanking

“I think this paddle gets you there faster.”

He’s talking about that stingy fucker. Not the thuddy one I like. The one with the big ouchies.

“What do you mean?”

“Well, to the point where you feel like you’ve had a spanking.”

Hmm. I‘m not sure what to say. It feels…not quite right. I mean, I do have that point—the point of being sated by a spanking, when I feel calm and relaxed. But it’s hard to characterize it as one thing. It’s not when I cry. It’s not when I’m close to safeword. It’s not when my interest turns to sex—that often creeps in when I still need more spanking.

In part, it depends on the type of spanking and the circumstances. But there are a couple of themes.

Reconnecting
I need maintenance spankings to reconnect. When that connection is the focus, I feel like I’ve “had a spanking” when I stop fighting it and give myself over to what my partner chooses. Sometimes that is easier or harder for me. If we’ve had a disconnect, it will be harder for me to let go. Even if I want to. But to feel sated by it, I have to give myself over. I have to reach a point where I no longer think about how many more swats or if/when it will turn to sex. I just feel open and accept what is chosen for me.

Quieting my Mind
My brain almost never slows down, even when I want it to. I am over his knee, and my brain is still chugging away at how a theory maps onto a problem at work. Or I’m thinking about whether I remembered to enroll my for dance, or how I’m going to keep my from destroying more of my house. But at some point in a spanking, my mind goes quiet. I no longer feel the to-do list looping through the back of my brain. I am at peace and truly present in the moment.

And the thing is, neither of these things comes from the amount of pain. Maybe if the point is to remind me that I am a girl who gets spanked, then submitting to the pain would be a way to get there quickly. Stingy paddles, the accursed riding crop… But that does not sate me. I could have a spanking like that and still feel like I need a spanking. What sates that need is being spanked to the point where my mind goes quiet and/or I give myself over to my partner. If a spanking does that, I will be walking on clouds for days. But there’s no easy formula for getting there. It’s not an implement or a duration or an intensity; it is something we have to discover together.

~cherishedproperty


"Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”


drmgirl622 68F  
25880 posts
1/21/2019 3:42 pm

Nothing as delicious as skin on skin....


tahimikbayani 53M
8008 posts
1/21/2019 1:57 pm

I agree, though Sara likes to believe it hurts my hands more than her ass. Boy, is she wrong.


hermang67 56M
830 posts
1/21/2019 1:37 pm

I feel more connected to My submissive when My hand connects to her ass


brandygirasol 54T
9365 posts
1/21/2019 11:34 am

Oooooooo When Those Endorphins Kick In Things Can Get Very Exciting Indeed


charlesmartel0 59M

1/21/2019 8:18 am

It's one way to enter the zen-like state of subspace. The Master/Dom should ideally learn the method, tools, intensity, and duration to achieve this state in his sub/slave.


aliljaded 53F
8847 posts
1/21/2019 6:01 am

I prefer the hand myself.

"Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”



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